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So, it's February! The month of love. And today, I watched a movie that got me thinking of what love means to me. I have come to terms with the fact that not everyone is capable of loving. The act of loving someone with all their heart is not something that everyone is blessed with. Love is very similar to passion, I believe. Just like, some people don't have any passion in their lives, a lot don't have the ability to love (and it's a very sad thing but it's true). And the more I see it, the more well-grounded it becomes. I am not just talking about "Romeo and Juliet" kind of love. I am talking about love in all its great forms.
Love to me is a combination of million little things and a lot of big things. As little and simple as walking you home or remembering the little details and as big as doing the chores and cleaning the entire house for you (or standing outside your house with a boombox playing "in your eyes" by Peter Gabriel). I strongly believe that there needs to be a balance that way.
When you love someone, you want to make them feel comfortable in every way possible. You want them to feel loved all the time. You want to see them happy. And like really, really HAPPY (so happy that they get sick of being happy every once in a while). You understand them and you never force them to do things they are not comfortable doing. You don't make them feel unwanted. You apologize through your actions and not by just saying sorry. You always stand up for them. You always want to encourage them ( even if you gave them a pep talk not more than 5 minutes ago). You want to make them feel special through your actions. You are patient with them. You cannot be mean to them no matter how hard you try to be. You cannot be mad at them for more than 4 hours (and those 4 hours are just excruciating ). You go out of your comfort zone for them ( you despise pie but she spent an hour making it and still butchered it? No problem! In the stomach it goes). You cannot help but get angry when someone speaks shit about them. You want them to be confident. You want to see them achieve heights. You are always there to carry them when they fall down. You don't make them feel scared of talking to you. You don't look at them through the eyes of society (and this is so important). You know they are unique. You want to hug them all the time. You want to kiss them all the time. And more than anything, you want them to never ever question their value in this world.
You know it's easy to say you love someone. So many people say it all the time. It's kind of funny that they don't even realize that this word that they are using all the time is of such high value.
"Don't go about getting too passionate", they say. But how can I love someone if it's not passionate "can't sleep, can't eat, can't breathe, my life sucks without you" kind of love? "Don't lose sense of practicality because of love", they say. But what is being practical anyway? And is the definition same for everyone? "Don't make it your number one priority", they say. But why fall in love if it's not your number one priority? Love shouldn't even be considered to be put in the top three priorities section in your mind. It just needs to be there. Succeeding all the other things and the priorities, always.
And you might roll your eyes at me and call me dreamy and hopeless romantic but I don't want to be in love if it's not the "give your everything into it" kind of love. The whole "go out on a date, have sex, never call each other up" notion or "forget about your parents once you are an adult but check up on them every once in awhile" kind of love is not up my alley. I am not about that life. I have been with people in my life who said they loved me but they never did. I have been with people in my life who thought they are capable of loving but they are just too apathetic to be capable of something like that. They loved the idea of loving someone because of what they get in exchange but don't really have it in them to love someone. And it got me bitter about a lot of things in my life, but surprisingly, loving someone didn't turn out to be one of them. I guess, I am just hopelessly full of love that way. And I am proud of the fact that when I love someone, I want them to have everything in their lives. There is no competition. There are no hidden harsh feelings. I just love them. Completely and utterly for who they are (unless they turn out to be a criminal or a sex predator, that's a whole another scenario then). I am the kind of person who'd be willing to go out with you at 3 AM searching for food (even if I know there is no point searching for it that late) and talk about absolute crap if I love you.
That's what love means to me. And of course, I would like to stress here that don't love someone if they don't love you back. Let go of them. Love yourself too. Because just like I stated, love is this very big priceless thing to offer to someone. And you wouldn't go about offering priceless things to a complete moron would you ( or to someone who does not want it). And I know sometimes morons get lucky, but don't let that bitter you. You keep your shiny gleaming hope of love constant. We spend our lives doing a lot of mediocre things, just don't let love be one of them. I hope "I" won't let love be one of them. So "That can't eat, can't sleep, reach for the stars,over the fence, world series kind of, love?" Totally!
I hope you enjoyed reading this.
And have a very happy Valentine's Day!
Love,
Natasha
So, it's February! The month of love. And today, I watched a movie that got me thinking of what love means to me. I have come to terms with the fact that not everyone is capable of loving. The act of loving someone with all their heart is not something that everyone is blessed with. Love is very similar to passion, I believe. Just like, some people don't have any passion in their lives, a lot don't have the ability to love (and it's a very sad thing but it's true). And the more I see it, the more well-grounded it becomes. I am not just talking about "Romeo and Juliet" kind of love. I am talking about love in all its great forms.
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When you love someone, you want to make them feel comfortable in every way possible. You want them to feel loved all the time. You want to see them happy. And like really, really HAPPY (so happy that they get sick of being happy every once in a while). You understand them and you never force them to do things they are not comfortable doing. You don't make them feel unwanted. You apologize through your actions and not by just saying sorry. You always stand up for them. You always want to encourage them ( even if you gave them a pep talk not more than 5 minutes ago). You want to make them feel special through your actions. You are patient with them. You cannot be mean to them no matter how hard you try to be. You cannot be mad at them for more than 4 hours (and those 4 hours are just excruciating ). You go out of your comfort zone for them ( you despise pie but she spent an hour making it and still butchered it? No problem! In the stomach it goes). You cannot help but get angry when someone speaks shit about them. You want them to be confident. You want to see them achieve heights. You are always there to carry them when they fall down. You don't make them feel scared of talking to you. You don't look at them through the eyes of society (and this is so important). You know they are unique. You want to hug them all the time. You want to kiss them all the time. And more than anything, you want them to never ever question their value in this world.
You know it's easy to say you love someone. So many people say it all the time. It's kind of funny that they don't even realize that this word that they are using all the time is of such high value.
"Don't go about getting too passionate", they say. But how can I love someone if it's not passionate "can't sleep, can't eat, can't breathe, my life sucks without you" kind of love? "Don't lose sense of practicality because of love", they say. But what is being practical anyway? And is the definition same for everyone? "Don't make it your number one priority", they say. But why fall in love if it's not your number one priority? Love shouldn't even be considered to be put in the top three priorities section in your mind. It just needs to be there. Succeeding all the other things and the priorities, always.
And you might roll your eyes at me and call me dreamy and hopeless romantic but I don't want to be in love if it's not the "give your everything into it" kind of love. The whole "go out on a date, have sex, never call each other up" notion or "forget about your parents once you are an adult but check up on them every once in awhile" kind of love is not up my alley. I am not about that life. I have been with people in my life who said they loved me but they never did. I have been with people in my life who thought they are capable of loving but they are just too apathetic to be capable of something like that. They loved the idea of loving someone because of what they get in exchange but don't really have it in them to love someone. And it got me bitter about a lot of things in my life, but surprisingly, loving someone didn't turn out to be one of them. I guess, I am just hopelessly full of love that way. And I am proud of the fact that when I love someone, I want them to have everything in their lives. There is no competition. There are no hidden harsh feelings. I just love them. Completely and utterly for who they are (unless they turn out to be a criminal or a sex predator, that's a whole another scenario then). I am the kind of person who'd be willing to go out with you at 3 AM searching for food (even if I know there is no point searching for it that late) and talk about absolute crap if I love you.
That's what love means to me. And of course, I would like to stress here that don't love someone if they don't love you back. Let go of them. Love yourself too. Because just like I stated, love is this very big priceless thing to offer to someone. And you wouldn't go about offering priceless things to a complete moron would you ( or to someone who does not want it). And I know sometimes morons get lucky, but don't let that bitter you. You keep your shiny gleaming hope of love constant. We spend our lives doing a lot of mediocre things, just don't let love be one of them. I hope "I" won't let love be one of them. So "That can't eat, can't sleep, reach for the stars,over the fence, world series kind of, love?" Totally!
I hope you enjoyed reading this.
Love,
Natasha
